The Brain Scoop: Where My Ladies At?
This was an incredibly difficult video for me to write and record. I haven’t been this uncomfortable or nervous about an episode since we decided to launch the Wolf series. I did it because I know my fellow female creators are with me: these comments are not easy to ignore, and they do have a negative impact on our desire to make videos and blaze trails.
Things can be said about women being more sensitive than men, or that men deal with these comments too, or that we should just accept that they’re going to happen.. but if I do, I’ll quit. If I accept that this is just part of the deal, this is what it is and always has been, it’s a requirement of my job to toughen up and barrel through, I won’t be able to continue. The remarks are enough to make me want to throw my hands up and retreat to a tiny cabin in the middle of nowhere. If the compromise is that I need to become desensitized, I would probably just do something else instead.
Let’s not create that kind of environment for our peers. Let’s be supportive, encouraging. Focus on the content, not the presenter. Ignoring the fact that these comments are uncomfortable is dismissive and counter-productive: let’s have less tolerance for both those comments, and the apathetic attitude attached to how they affect our community.
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I get my fair share of obnoxious trolls. It is sadly part of the job when you are a visible presence on the internet. But I am the first to admit that as a straight white male I am protected from a lot of hate. When I advocate for certain feminist issues, usually the worst feedback I will receive is along the lines of “Frogman, I am disappointed in you.” Or “you’re just saying this to get laid.”
When I see my female friends talk about the same issues they will often get rape and death threats. They will be called every degrading expletive the commenter can think of. If they post a selfie that shows even an inch of cleavage their replies will be filled with “I’d do you” and other various objectifying remarks. And if they don’t dress provocatively enough they get hate for not being as pleasing as possible to the male gaze. I can’t even begin to imagine what that is like and how frustrating it must be.
The Brain Scoop is truly one of my favorite YouTube channels. Emily is smart, funny, and extremely competent as a presenter. Even more-so as a scientist. I’ve seen many of the comments she refers to in this video and they always make me sad. I applaud her fortitude and her desire to continue on and I really hope that people listen to what she is saying here. I hope they will consider their behavior before leaving comments or sending messages.
I’ve always said that ignoring bullies is not always the solution. Sometimes we have to stand up to them. We have to call out problematic behavior when we see it. We need to help create safer spaces for people who aren’t straight white men. Everyone deserves to create content and share it with the world.
Yep sadly true
I just came across this post at Uproxx, where someone transcribed my words to baby Violet earlier this year. It makes me so happy that it exists in this form that I copied it to have on my blog forever.
“My name is Wil Wheaton. It’s 2013. And you’ve…
Someone finally described it